What it takes to be sensible
Sometimes sensible is smart
Not always it is necessary to outwit people in conversations. Not always your mind should be inquisitive. How you lead your life is your personality, but you can still work upon your conduct, if you like. What we percept from someone is always about something that goes on inside them (thoughts become actions), there is a reasoning behind it always but how we judge them is according to our background, our thoughts and experiences.
Back in 1980s parents were very particular about teaching their children how to act and react in daily life situations, how to sit, eat, stand, walk and more. This era is more comfortable. But those of you are mature and talented, will adsorb these soft skills in their jobs eventually. Such mannerisms develop as and when you step onto the ladder of success. For example, our body language improves with experience. Parents and teachers now teach their children to be themselves and that I think is the most important attribute of an independent adulthood. It is the work that counts now and not the character and conduct. Nowadays people are not that sophisticated. They are who they are, and they do not expect many SORRYs and THANK YOUs. It is a good thing if you can manage to add them in your daily conversations, but not necessarily. They expect how lucrative it would be to be with you. They aren’t selfish because 2020s are the years when people are concentrating on personal development, profit, knowledge upgradation, love for family, making good friends and socializing. They want digital or internet success. What were mere secrets to success stories are all out there. Every being on this planet has become a hero. There is no harm in such indulgent and obsessive living, it makes us smug, but I have a different perspective.
We do not want the common traits, we need to stand out. We need to become some sort of a person who is out there for you without the need to impress you or make you feel great. Someone who is sensible. Someone who cares without expecting things in return. Someone who leads predominantly by involving the people at stake in their decision making process. We judge the situation keeping others in perspective, not only by how lucrative it would be to be with them. Leaving everyone to figure out their code of conduct, and work upon how to bring out people and set an example to be admired.
Someone like a scientist, deeply doing their routine work and assertive about their timings with very little limelight, glued on to the work, yet when someone approaches them in 6 months time, they look up to it, as a break in the monotony. They smile back and share their wisdom. Again not expecting anything more than a cup of coffee, and a pleasant talk then get back with ideas to work upon again. That is desirable, because such people are the backbone of any system. They create change, they contribute their ideas and uplift others, not even expect that they will be remembered for it. That is the graciousness of life they have imbibed from their education and science. This is what is sensible. Someone so committed to whatever they do and someone on whom people can have faith and who has faith in you.
So let us begin that journey to become.
