To Become Prolific Inside Out…
A few months ago I was teaching a bunch of medical students the art of attitude and communication for a doctor-patient relationship. I emphasized that one must look at the patient when they speak. And try not to look at the patient when you are explaining, to not condescend the patient. This works.
Most people come up with ideas to write, create, paint, speak when they are surrounded by people and they capture what is in their environment for their art work. And there are several others who want a quiet time to plan and create. Many people lose their potential when their environment changes and they get confused unable to adjust. The idea is to stay grounded in all circumstances and be prolific inside out in any kind of situation which leads to success.
We have different personalities and no two people are alike. Better still we want to be like each other. Even more better, we strive to be better than the other. Best, we improve ourselves in the process.
The pitfalls preventing proliferation:
The question is do we know ourselves? Being in touch with our own reality makes us better judge of the situation and perceive others quickly to prevent errors and misunderstandings and the resultant chaos which most of us are facing in the modern world. We are left with two options, either intervene or ignore. If you are in the middle, though middle path is right, the complexity of life becomes difficult to handle draining all your energy in maintaining the equilibrium. But we must remember that if the planet slides away from trajectory, life shall cease to exist due to extreme hot or cold.
This is the Mental Health Week. And we are never anticipating problems, they are created leading to mental breakdown. It is certainly not a fashion statement which most of my students complain about, like they start talking about burn outs, depression, madness, freak out. Nevertheless, it has become difficult to assess who really has the problem. Because speaking of mental ill-health is the new in thing. Most of such problems are consequences of over thinking, information through internet, profound inaction, social deprivation when only phones are friends, ADHD, not reading and not being prepared for anything and everything.
I did not mention dating and love affairs because, such matters should not become a habit to complain about, it is to enjoy having a boyfriend or soul mate, it should not be a pain, it should be a bliss. It doesn’t matter how many you date, or better still you never date. According to me, one should be comfortable in such matters and open, according to your own personality, then at least these cupid strikes feelings shall be painless, without worries and at least you can love one person and avoid frivolousness for a better mental health. I am not conservative but as we take care of our diet and exercise, we need mental exercise too. Otherwise bad habits become a part of our nature and we no longer correct the mind and succumb to mental illness. Have a boyfriend or don’t, but avoid the pain. Because when you fall in love, you shall love the healthy kind of pain, then it will not be a wrong mental exercise.
And now what can be done for a prolific success?
So our problems are solved. We know ourselves better and we shall take mental health advise only if it is really really required and we shall not stigmatize others with a mental problem or traumatic experience.
The first thing to do each morning is to greet each other. Send positive vibes to the environment in the hope that we get back the same energy which enables us to focus. If you can, pass a warm smile. You will look beautiful, and also you shall have pleasant thoughts. Smile no matter what!! If you feel foolish, smile. If you feel deprived, smile. If you feel liked, smile and if you feel angry, smile. Remember to smile at yourself only to feel smug inside if you do not feel comfortable smiling at others due to any social, cultural, psychological constraints that may be.Then the back of your mind would suggest good and nice things to indulge in which can lead to accomplishment. Like reading a book, join a course, get a steady partner, watch a movie, remember friends, concentrate on important work like studying for exams without getting bored or feeling anxious.
I come back to the skill I was teaching. The idea is to make things comfortable between a doctor-patient, mother-child, wife-husband, siblings and friends. We look at others not with conspiracy, but good will that which will make our surroundings conducive for inevitable prolific success and not mental ill health.
I am not imposing this revelation on everyone who happens to read this. Because hurt feelings overpower us. We are humans, and resorting to healthy mental fights may help some people with personalities different than mine. Nevertheless, calm yourself and push yourself to what is important and who are important to become prolific inside out without confusion about the less significant mundane tasks and the environmental impacts on us throughout the day. Be at ease with yourself to deliver your kind of work!!