Self-expression should not victimize you, it should empower you with good things

Self expression can create the epic Ramayana or Mahabharata. It can create both Cinderella and Snow-white or Rumpelstiltskin!!

Our self-expression makes us become victims in the following manner:

1. We shape our thoughts according to what we express, and indeed our thoughts guide our expressions. If we believe in our thoughts that nobody is good to us, we express things that way. We greet people around us bitterly, our conversation becomes cold and our expressions become stern making us appear inapproachable by friends and family. We condescend others and make our thoughts rigid and we tell people that no one can change our opinion or no one can create us which is a wall that does not change and is our greatest obstacle.
2. When we feel that we are harmed, we truly are harmed. While there is someone out there who has been harmed continuously and persistently but what she expresses is good things constantly forgetting and forgiving everybody but every new day is full of harm yet she lets things pass by to maintain her self-expression which is benign and even her anger is to set others in the right direction rest she forgets again, even the anger. If this outlook is not touched upon or accepted with blocked self-expression, she becomes helpless, vulnerable and might as well commit suicide and those who harmed her will move on thinking of her as a scapegoat, funny, unattractive and a pain in the ass. Her good outlook instead makes people envy her and is the reason behind her success.
3. Those who keep thinking and expressing they are mad will never break their circle of madness that surrounds them. They will keep analyzing where exactly the mistake occurred, how many times they have been unfocussed during the day, or were not able to cope. They will seek help from psychiatrists instead of taking a day off from work and sleeping tight which is all that they actually want and not medical help.
4. Gossip sessions are a good way to pass time. Trouble happens when it becomes a routine as if we have nothing else to do. We have to break free from such events because we usually over express and lie, which can be misused by the conniving people who will not do good to you but defame you after your self-expression without truly understanding that this agitation that you expressed was the need of the hour and not permanence. Beware before it becomes permanent. There are many egoistic people around who may affect your position or status in front of others. So, speak when it is OK to speak. Seek help through proper channel to ease your vulnerability.

It should help us not destroy us. Safest way of course is to write and analyze!!

During the young days of blogging, personal stories were not liked. Any hack, knowledge and do-it-yourself idea became viral over the internet. But people have changed due to time spent online and it has widened our technological family. It is a part of our routine to spend time online. When thought leaders crept into the scene, they have revolutionized the whole industry by expressing ourselves through writing that can correct us or victimize us. Most of us are honest writers. We are authentic. We help each other and share our agony among not so opportune people also. We meet some big shots on the same platform. We learn, we grow. We all are victims but we all are no longer. This is the beauty of self-expression, it makes us or breaks us.

We must understand that the pain has been distributed through communication. What is left is purity and truthfulness that has got us success and will continue to do so. We help others, discuss stuff at workplaces, feel another being’s problems and find beautiful and honest solutions. We empathize with people lacking revenue, we encourage students to study well, we teach deep learning and adult learning. Let us all be forcefully positive and happy to really become happy because over the years of practice, we have started thinking good things. We are thought leaders and not victims anymore. One day we express the pain while it becomes a solution filled discourse next. Some believe in quantity of their writing while others express rarely.

Writing online is harmless. It is the best way to self-express. Even if you write shamelessly, it helps your loneliness, analytical skills, celebrations, remorse and new developments. No one knows you yet all these people out there are talking to you. Virtually we have supporters and our brain becomes calm and content until some new experience gets added on about which we can write.

Self-expression of the learned has created the epics, it has empowered generations to do good things and soothe themselves. Let us keep that essence only and not be victims by continuous allegations and self-pity no matter how much hurt is created in your life. Spend time alone, contemplate and erase what does not serve you for another hopeful day. So I begin today again for a better tomorrow to continue the good work.

We are not victims, we write to empower others and ourselves.