Neither shirk the inner self neither expect that the thoughts need to be justified. Living moment to moment according to your values might overcome the cognitive dissonance as explained in this article. It is ok to be mindful and ethical most of the time but mostly we need to be ourselves without anyone judging us. This is a beautiful article mentioning the most important reason of pain, agony and sufferings is dissonance. Relaxing our expectations from ourselves and accepting the way we are might help.