Mindless chatter with yourself is sometimes required
Lately, I am engaged in writing a few chapters for books. It looks very modern, like an accomplishment, like we own our life with the opportunities we are getting to prove ourselves.
This kind of living is the peak of the mountain that most others cannot even dare to reach, but because they haven’t worked for it. So I am offering gratitude to the energy and gravity that has helped me endure my hardships and be the best version of myself. At least this one day of self awareness and many such days yonder shall make me reach the expectations I have from myself.
In school, teachers keep saying, “please submit your work”. So writing is my submission, unapologetically, to the mental jargon of a writer, creator, doctor and more. I do not apologize for being myself but extremely grateful to these vibes for letting me be. Most of us who write are disheartened because of some life’s misfortune but these brave-hearts have made a comeback and are kind enough to share their life with us. This is why I feel personal stories of writers should not be missed. It helps you to relate and improve as much as you can in life. You can find soulmates who are suffering similarly.
When I was young, I used to tell my friends to think. Just think what you are uttering, think where is the fault, think for yourself where you are heading towards. You may boil up or swear, that is your self-love and nothing else. You do not become selfish this way, love heals, so love yourself for enduring. When you do so, you are capable to take responsibility of others. It makes you feel less loathsome. Why I say this, is because most people who love themselves, their motive is lust for money, acknowledgement, reputation, greedy self-satisfaction. I am talking love like, to take care of yourself, try to plan your day, make a contribution beyond your capacity, and groom yourself to tackle the world around begetting success. This prepares you to help those who have hopes from you positively. Self-love prepares you if you understand how to do that for own betterment and of others. This is the easiest form of love, because you know I am like myself, why should I shy away from myself.
Many will not agree to think, because there are proponents for superficial living, light heartedness, fun and frolic. In my opinion if you can be that, it is great. You at least love having fun. My kind of fun is a cup of coffee and difficult texts to comprehend, learning my art for the perfection I desire. Thinking for yourself requires a 2 hour break when you do not have to think. During this time try conversing with yourself mindlessly, relentlessly, shamelessly. Because even saints are not saints, there is an element of hypocrisy with them. Realism suggests, a saint works throughout the day and sleeps at night not bothering what others have to say or do about them. Or they contribute to enrich others’ life. But there are negative feelings like feeling subdued, feel like an imposter, working against ethics or thinking shamelessly. To vent out you need family and friends. Do not discuss your troubles. Instead, watch a movie with them, engage in talks about the people around, plan the fun for the next weekend. You become mature with such level of mindlessness. Only you should handle your tantrums, why others? That adds up to your mystery and you get respect for being like that. Another way to handle negativity are those 2 hours of not thinking much and mindlessly talk to yourself, it could be funny, indecent, respectful, loving talks you have about yourself to yourself. This heals your negativity and helps you face your adversaries. Try not to get overwhelmed, time yourself, and like when you read many research, the conclusion is- no association can be established, results are non significant, ease yourself. Not always a mindless chatter is conclusive. But the questions arise, negativity arises, for you to get better in your research as you explored something insignificant and it leaves the room for us to establish a relation after analyzing confounders to make a significant association in follow-up research, or describing the problem better. The latter involves sane thinking that follows a mindless chatter.
Our minds are as scientific as an environmental research. There is always a science behind feelings also. It may not be appreciated but psychology is also not an art but science. So talking mindlessly with friends and family or with yourself, usually does no harm. We are social animals so just be an animal and live your life.
