How to contribute and give all you have to the game called life

There are ordinary stories full of struggles, betrayal and broken hearts all around. There is one thing or the other people complain about and try to seek sympathy. Then they recover or become bitter and take away their own freedom and fight in life dissatisfied. There are only a few who get over it. Very few make a mark in the world. Very few make a mark in their college, school, family, and individually. Those are the few you want to be with more, unless of course your mindset is dwindled by your own ambitions, squalor, vengeance and you are not emotional enough to care about the other person’s achievements and are unhappy with yourself, your money, your work and so on.

Humans are emotional, so are you, so am I. We all need some sought of care, acknowledgement, love, and fulfilment.

But I don’t know if you thought of your emotions as your hindrance towards success. We all want to achieve. We all want to contribute. We give our all. Give all we have in the service of others.

Does that mean you try to overwhelm yourself and look at other people as if they want your help?

Does that mean you don’t have a life of your own, you need to be surrounded with people and their stuff?

Does that mean you have to drive without seatbelts on ?

This answer cannot be diplomatic. It is a plain no.

In 2008 I began my career in my own country with a lot of zeal to excel. I was confident and mature. My world became my family and workplace. My world became my seniors as well. Even though the system was not clear to me, I wanted to contribute. Most of the people take it the wrong way, if you want to contribute. They are not used to people who help without vested interest.

And contribution is not when you make the other person feel nice all the time so that their egos are not hurt. That is suffocation.

My friend for 6 years with me in Eastern Europe always complained that I do not help him in studies, while I take pain for other students. I told him that he was capable, and after say a decade he would know why I did that. Today he might be having a decent job and ability gained by his own effort which makes his parents proud of him. He might not remember me, but this was my contribution in his life. I took his responsibility.

Whenever I write a blog post, I have an urge to use the term “PREPARE”. This is the only thing that can keep you focused throughout your life. Prepare for school, college, marriage, success. If you read the life history of very many famous people, they speak of reflection and focus. Their life is not messed up. They are clear headed and do not give a crap about others, like my friend always said I don’t care about him and hurt his ego. Though it was traumatic, I never complained back. Even today almost 20 years ago, I don’t know why I had such a friend, was it to sabotage myself or take a challenge that I can manage away from home.

But preparation is not always up to standards, as there always are better performers. And it isn’t the workable solution for many in their unique circumstances. I shall not dig into the social, societal factors. I shall suggest my readers to think about this hack to succeed; the “What next” attitude!!

Achievers are contributors.

You achieved a degree, what next?

You gave birth, what next?

You cooked a lavish meal for friends, what next?

You bought him a gift, what next?

You wrote that book, what next?

What next and again really what next?

Never stop in your journey called life. We have to keep moving and plan ahead and next. This particular process made you to contribute a lot in your profession, in your child’s life, made you earn friends, money, and satisfaction. Those who contribute, you want to be around them. You look up to them, why not be like them? People should look up to you and succeed with you. I don’t say that you will evade rivalry. It stays. We are humans. But it shows your success. This was out of contributions and not ruthlessness or cunningness.

My life is how long I do not know, but for as long as I live I am going to think, what next.

Blessings to all!!